Stress

SOOOOOOO The national exam is just two months away. (In indonesia for junior high school kids) and lots of the students (including myself) is already stressed out. The pressure is sometimes hard to deal with. So, I looked around at Google to find A WAY TO DEAL WITH STRESS, and I found this quite interesting article, and I feel that all of you people that is stressed the hell out of you (sorry for the word) should read this interesting article. 😀

Managing stress

First, recognize stress

Stress symptoms include mental, social, and physical manifestations. These include exhaustion, loss of/increased appetite, headaches, crying, sleeplessness, and oversleeping. Escape through alcohol, drugs, or other compulsive behavior are often indications. Feelings of alarm, frustration, or apathy may accompany stress.

If you feel that stress is affecting your studies,
a first option is to seek help through your educational counseling center.

Stress Management is the ability to maintain control when situations, people, and events make excessive demands. What you can do to manage your stress?
What are some strategies?

Look around

See if there really is something you can change or control in the situation

Set realistic goals for yourself
Reduce the number of events going on in your life and you may reduce the circuit overload

Remove yourself from the stressful situation
Give yourself a break if only for a few moments daily

Don’t overwhelm yourself
by fretting about your entire workload. Handle each task as it comes, or selectively deal with matters in some priority

Don’t sweat the small stuff
Try to prioritize a few truly important things and let the rest slide

Learn how to best relax yourself
Meditation and breathing exercises have been proven to be very effective in controlling stress.  Practice clearing your mind of disturbing thoughts.

Selectively change the way you react,
but not too much at one time.  Focus on one troublesome thing and manage your reactions to it/him/her

Change the way you see your situation; seek alternative viewpoints
Stress is a reaction to events and problems, and you can lock yourself in to one way of viewing your situation.  Seek an outside perspective of the situation, compare it with yours. and perhaps lessen your reaction to these conditions.

Avoid extreme reactions;
Why hate when a little dislike will do? Why generate anxiety when you can be nervous? Why rage when anger will do the job? Why be depressed when you can just be sad?

Do something for others
to help get your mind off your self

Get enough sleep
Lack of rest just aggravates stress

Work off stress
with physical activity, whether it’s jogging, tennis, gardening

Avoid self-medication or escape
Alcohol and drugs can mask stress.  They don’t help deal with the problems

Begin to manage the effects of stress
This is a long range strategy of adapting to your situation, and the effects of stress in your life.  Try to isolate and work with one “effect” at a time.  Don’t overwhelm yourself.  for example, if you are not sleeping well, seek help on this one problem.

Try to “use” stress
If you can’t remedy, nor escape from,  what is bothering you, flow with it and try to use it in a productive way

Try to be positive
Give yourself messages as to how well you can cope rather than how horrible everything is going to be.  “Stress can actually help memory, provided it is short-term and not too severe.  Stress causes more glucose to be delivered to the brain, which makes more energy available to neurons.  This, in turn, enhances memory formation and retrieval.  On the other hand, if stress is prolonged, it can impede the glucose delivery and disrupt memory.”

Most importantly:
if stress is putting you in an unmanageable state or interfering with your schoolwork, social and/or work life, 
seek professional help at your school counseling center

See? try to follow these instructions and see for yourself. I think I’m gonna try these too 😀

Valentine’s Day

ALL THE SINGLE LADIES! NOW PUT YOUR HANDS UP!

Valentine’s day is mainly about expressing your love to somebody through chocolate. And it has become a tradition, all around the world. Sometimes, I wonder, do you really have to wait for Valentine’s day to show your love and affection to your loved ones? Perhaps not. But still, Valentine’s day can be quite wonderful. Especially when you’re in love.

The Early Medieval acta of either Saint Valentine were expounded briefly in Legenda Aurea According to that version, St Valentine was persecuted as a Christian and interrogated by Roman Emperor Claudius II in person. Claudius was impressed by Valentine and had a discussion with him, attempting to get him to convert to Roman paganism in order to save his life. Valentine refused and tried to convert Claudius to Christianity instead. Because of this, he was executed. Before his execution, he is reported to have performed a miracle by healing the blind daughter of his jailer.

Since Legenda Aurea still provided no connections whatsoever with sentimental love, appropriate lore has been embroidered in modern times to portray Valentine as a priest who refused an unattested law attributed to Roman Emperor Claudius II, allegedly ordering that young men remain single. The Emperor supposedly did this to grow his army, believing that married men did not make for good soldiers. The priest Valentine, however, secretly performed marriage ceremonies for young men. When Claudius found out about this, he had Valentine arrested and thrown in jail.

There is an additional modern embellishment to The Golden Legend, provided by American Greetings to History.com, and widely repeated despite having no historical basis whatsoever. On the evening before Valentine was to be executed, he would have written the first “valentine” card himself, addressed to a young girl variously identified as his beloved, as the jailer’s daughter whom he had befriended and healed, or both. It was a note that read “From your Valentine.”

Huh, the story’s a bit scary for my taste. But, that’s according to Wikipedia and I’m not gonna argue. Hehehe, so, did you celebrate Valentine’s day with your sweetheart? Truth be told, I DON”T WANT TO KNOW

 

4 temperaments types

sources :

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/four_temperaments

4marks.com

this is it, 4 temperaments types

Sanguine

The Sanguine temperament personality is fairly extroverted. People of a sanguine temperament tend to enjoy social gatherings, making new friends and tend to be quite loud. They are usually quite creative and often daydream. However, some alone time is crucial for those of this temperament. Sanguine can also mean very sensitive, compassionate and thoughtful. Sanguine personalities generally struggle with following tasks all the way through, are chronically late, and tend to be forgetful and sometimes a little sarcastic. Often, when pursuing a new hobby, interest is lost quickly when it ceases to be engaging or fun. They are very much people persons. They are talkative and not shy. For some people, these are the ones you want to be friends with and usually they become life long friends.

Choleric

A person who is choleric is a do-er. They have a lot of ambition, energy, and passion, and try to instil it in others. They can dominate people of other temperaments, especially phlegmatic types. Many great charismatic military and political figures were cholerics. They like to be leaders and in charge of everything.

Melancholic

A person who is a thoughtful ponderer has a melancholic disposition. Often very considerate and get rather worried when they could not be on time for events, melancholics can be highly creative in activities such as poetry and art – and can become occupied with the tragedy and cruelty in the world. A melancholic is also often a perfectionist. They are often self-reliant and independent; one negative part of being a melancholic is sometimes they can get so involved in what they are doing they forget to think of others.

Phlegmatic

Phlegmatics tend to be self-content and kind. They can be very accepting and affectionate. They may be very receptive and shy and often prefer stability to uncertainty and change. They are very consistent, relaxed, rational, curious, and observant, making them good administrators . However they can also be very passive and aggressive.

so, which one are you?

1.	9.2	The Shawshank Redemption (1994)	558,249
2.	9.2	The Godfather (1972)	436,012
3.	9.0	The Godfather: Part II (1974)	263,858
4.	8.9	The Good, the Bad and the Ugly (1966)	175,129
5.	8.9	Pulp Fiction (1994)	445,663
6.	8.9	Schindler’s List (1993)	295,750
7.	8.9	12 Angry Men (1957)	131,037
8.	8.9	Inception (2010)	292,814
9.	8.8	One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest (1975)	230,763
10.	8.8	The Dark Knight (2008)	498,434
11.	8.8	Star Wars: Episode V – The Empire Strikes Back (1980)	294,915
12.	8.8	The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King (2003)	388,507
13.	8.8	Seven Samurai (1954)	103,151
14.	8.7	Fight Club (1999)	410,885
15.	8.7	Star Wars: Episode IV – A New Hope (1977)	338,037
16.	8.7	Goodfellas (1990)	245,294
17.	8.7	Casablanca (1942)	176,826
18.	8.7	City of God (2002)	180,133
19.	8.7	The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring (2001)	411,378
20.	8.7	Once Upon a Time in the West (1968)	80,539
21.	8.7	Rear Window (1954)	126,440
22.	8.7	Raiders of the Lost Ark (1981)	256,411
23.	8.7	The Matrix (1999)	406,789
24.	8.7	Psycho (1960)	153,484
25.	8.7	The Usual Suspects (1995)	282,680
26.	8.6	The Silence of the Lambs (1991)	263,406
27.	8.6	Toy Story 3 (2010)	104,792
28.	8.6	Se7en (1995)	300,905
29.	8.6	It’s a Wonderful Life (1946)	109,080
30.	8.6	Memento (2000)	294,557
31.	8.6	The Lord of the Rings: The Two Towers (2002)	347,984
32.	8.6	Sunset Blvd. (1950)	58,705
33.	8.6	Forrest Gump (1994)	325,426
34.	8.6	Leon: The Professional (1994)	216,510
35.	8.6	Dr. Strangelove or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb (1964)	163,661
36.	8.6	Apocalypse Now (1979)	183,372
37.	8.6	Citizen Kane (1941)	144,947
38.	8.6	North by Northwest (1959)	98,818
39.	8.5	American Beauty (1999)	310,219
40.	8.5	American History X (1998)	241,919
41.	8.5	Taxi Driver (1976)	167,334
42.	8.5	Terminator 2: Judgment Day (1991)	253,909
43.	8.5	Saving Private Ryan (1998)	287,126
44.	8.5	Vertigo (1958)	97,431
45.	8.5	Amélie (2001)	194,606
46.	8.5	Alien (1979)	191,698
47.	8.5	WALL·E (2008)	200,130
48.	8.5	Spirited Away (2001)	110,214
49.	8.5	The Shining (1980)	190,577
50.	8.5	Paths of Glory (1957)	47,929
51.	8.5	Lawrence of Arabia (1962)	83,765
52.	8.5	Black Swan (2010)	53,437
53.	8.5	Double Indemnity (1944)	39,663
54.	8.5	The Pianist (2002)	145,135
55.	8.5	A Clockwork Orange (1971)	205,405
56.	8.4	City Lights (1931)	30,203
57.	8.4	The Lives of Others (2006)	81,944
58.	8.4	To Kill a Mockingbird (1962)	87,446
59.	8.4	M (1931)	42,594
60.	8.4	The Departed (2006)	283,638
61.	8.4	Aliens (1986)	179,573
62.	8.4	Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004)	235,073
63.	8.4	Requiem for a Dream (2000)	198,908
64.	8.4	Das Boot (1981)	73,890
65.	8.4	The Third Man (1949)	53,600
66.	8.4	Reservoir Dogs (1992)	225,682
67.	8.4	L.A. Confidential (1997)	173,524
68.	8.4	Chinatown (1974)	83,774
69.	8.4	Modern Times (1936)	38,723
70.	8.4	The Treasure of the Sierra Madre (1948)	35,297
71.	8.4	Life is Beautiful (1997)	117,512
72.	8.4	Back to the Future (1985)	218,123
73.	8.4	The Prestige (2006)	226,650
74.	8.4	Monty Python and the Holy Grail (1975)	162,969
75.	8.4	Pan’s Labyrinth (2006)	166,762
76.	8.4	Raging Bull (1980)	95,588
77.	8.4	Cinema Paradiso (1988)	49,014
78.	8.3	Singin’ in the Rain (1952)	58,750
79.	8.3	Some Like It Hot (1959)	71,572
80.	8.3	The Bridge on the River Kwai (1957)	62,169
81.	8.3	Rashômon (1950)	41,635
82.	8.3	Once Upon a Time in America (1984)	77,305
83.	8.3	Amadeus (1984)	103,261
84.	8.3	All About Eve (1950)	36,745
85.	8.3	The Green Mile (1999)	215,219
86.	8.3	Full Metal Jacket (1987)	162,559
87.	8.3	Bicycle Thieves (1948)	29,770
88.	8.3	2001: A Space Odyssey (1968)	169,153
89.	8.3	The Great Dictator (1940)	40,059
90.	8.3	Inglourious Basterds (2009)	202,774
91.	8.3	Braveheart (1995)	255,925
92.	8.3	The Apartment (1960)	38,894
93.	8.3	Downfall (2004)	88,906
94.	8.3	Up (2009)	128,833
95.	8.3	Gran Torino (2008)	144,449
96.	8.3	Metropolis (1927)	42,770
97.	8.3	Gladiator (2000)	299,151
98.	8.3	The Sting (1973)	69,958
99.	8.3	Unforgiven (1992)	105,881
100.	8.3	The Maltese Falcon (1941)	54,227
101.	8.3	The Elephant Man (1980)	62,314
102.	8.3	Oldboy (2003)	105,646
103.	8.3	Mr. Smith Goes to Washington (1939)	35,242
104.	8.3	Sin City (2005)	270,798
105.	8.3	On the Waterfront (1954)	43,635
106.	8.3	Rebecca (1940)	37,368
107.	8.3	Star Wars: Episode VI – Return of the Jedi (1983)	222,780
108.	8.3	Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade (1989)	181,568
109.	8.3	Die Hard (1988)	193,856
110.	8.3	The Great Escape (1963)	66,085
111.	8.3	Mononoke-hime (1997)	70,283
112.	8.3	Batman Begins (2005)	287,336
113.	8.3	The King’s Speech (2010)	18,487
114.	8.2	The Seventh Seal (1957)	39,623
115.	8.2	Jaws (1975)	146,874
116.	8.2	Hotel Rwanda (2004)	98,842
117.	8.2	Blade Runner (1982)	194,797
118.	8.2	Fargo (1996)	173,967
119.	8.2	The General (1926)	21,385
120.	8.2	Slumdog Millionaire (2008)	192,663
121.	8.2	No Country for Old Men (2007)	212,539
122.	8.2	Heat (1995)	154,447
123.	8.2	The Wizard of Oz (1939)	109,489
124.	8.2	For a Few Dollars More (1965)	48,358
125.	8.2	Touch of Evil (1958)	34,411
126.	8.2	Yôjinbô (1961)	31,092
127.	8.2	Ran (1985)	36,401
128.	8.2	Witness for the Prosecution (1957)	19,379
129.	8.2	Wild Strawberries (1957)	22,900
130.	8.2	Hotaru no haka (1988)	37,622
131.	8.2	Snatch. (2000)	186,725
132.	8.2	The Sixth Sense (1999)	254,285
133.	8.2	Annie Hall (1977)	69,436
134.	8.2	The Deer Hunter (1978)	93,397
135.	8.2	Donnie Darko (2001)	224,062
136.	8.2	District 9 (2009)	169,723
137.	8.2	Cool Hand Luke (1967)	48,455
138.	8.2	The Big Lebowski (1998)	190,574
139.	8.2	Strangers on a Train (1951)	36,703
140.	8.2	It Happened One Night (1934)	26,682
141.	8.2	High Noon (1952)	36,103
142.	8.2	Kill Bill: Vol. 1 (2003)	248,075
143.	8.2	The Lion King (1994)	150,266
144.	8.2	Platoon (1986)	115,499
145.	8.2	Into the Wild (2007)	111,261
146.	8.2	There Will Be Blood (2007)	140,509
147.	8.2	Avatar (2009)	291,888
148.	8.2	Toy Story (1995)	165,618
149.	8.1	Notorious (1946)	33,211
150.	8.1	Million Dollar Baby (2004)	152,593
151.	8.1	Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid (1969)	61,154
152.	8.1	Sunrise: A Song of Two Humans (1927)	12,322
153.	8.1	Trainspotting (1996)	160,328
154.	8.1	Gone with the Wind (1939)	84,050
155.	8.1	The Gold Rush (1925)	22,691
156.	8.1	Scarface (1983)	163,004
157.	8.1	The Grapes of Wrath (1940)	24,821
158.	8.1	The Wrestler (2008)	103,573
159.	8.1	The Manchurian Candidate (1962)	36,301
160.	8.1	Ben-Hur (1959)	62,316
161.	8.1	The Big Sleep (1946)	30,577
162.	8.1	Groundhog Day (1993)	145,629
163.	8.1	The Graduate (1967)	82,830
164.	8.1	Life of Brian (1979)	100,302
165.	8.1	Amores perros (2000)	65,018
166.	8.1	Finding Nemo (2003)	178,841
167.	8.1	The Social Network (2010)	79,185
168.	8.1	The Bourne Ultimatum (2007)	158,368
169.	8.1	The Terminator (1984)	191,316
170.	8.1	The Best Years of Our Lives (1946)	18,301
171.	8.1	The Kid (1921)	15,887
172.	8.1	Ikiru (1952)	17,346
173.	8.1	Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels (1998)	135,123
174.	8.1	Stand by Me (1986)	95,622
175.	8.1	The Secret in Their Eyes (2009)	24,854
176.	8.1	The Thing (1982)	84,657
177.	8.1	The Wages of Fear (1953)	15,176
178.	8.1	Casino (1995)	116,279
179.	8.1	How to Train Your Dragon (2010)	56,627
180.	8.1	Twelve Monkeys (1995)	180,176
181.	8.1	V for Vendetta (2006)	241,753
182.	8.1	Dog Day Afternoon (1975)	63,661
183.	8.1	Les diaboliques (1955)	15,809
184.	8.1	Ratatouille (2007)	143,945
185.	8.1	Gandhi (1982)	54,548
186.	8.1	Star Trek (2009)	146,575
187.	8.1	8½ (1963)	31,782
188.	8.1	Tonari no Totoro (1988)	34,285
189.	8.1	The Princess Bride (1987)	128,813
190.	8.1	The Night of the Hunter (1955)	27,294
191.	8.1	Judgment at Nuremberg (1961)	15,341
192.	8.0	The Hustler (1961)	26,859
193.	8.0	The Incredibles (2004)	171,173
194.	8.0	The Killing (1956)	26,340
195.	8.0	La strada (1954)	18,910
196.	8.0	Good Will Hunting (1997)	162,253
197.	8.0	The 400 Blows (1959)	25,624
198.	8.0	Network (1976)	36,382
199.	8.0	The Battle of Algiers (1966)	14,942
200.	8.0	True Grit (2010)	24,357
201.	8.0	The Diving Bell and the Butterfly (2007)	34,156
202.	8.0	The Wild Bunch (1969)	32,983
203.	8.0	In Bruges (2008)	107,394
204.	8.0	A Streetcar Named Desire (1951)	35,968
205.	8.0	Stalag 17 (1953)	21,811
206.	8.0	The Exorcist (1973)	111,657
207.	8.0	Persona (1966)	17,075
208.	8.0	Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf? (1966)	21,264
209.	8.0	Dial M for Murder (1954)	32,444
210.	8.0	The Passion of Joan of Arc (1928)	11,585
211.	8.0	The Fighter (2010)	17,027
212.	8.0	Children of Men (2006)	169,315
213.	8.0	Kind Hearts and Coronets (1949)	13,935
214.	8.0	All Quiet on the Western Front (1930)	22,852
215.	8.0	Let the Right One In (2008)	65,898
216.	8.0	Ed Wood (1994)	78,253
217.	8.0	Mary and Max (2009)	16,457
218.	8.0	Fanny and Alexander (1982)	15,358
219.	8.0	127 Hours (2010)	22,240
220.	8.0	Rocky (1976)	106,210
221.	8.0	Big Fish (2003)	150,687
222.	8.0	Magnolia (1999)	127,185
223.	8.0	Manhattan (1979)	41,059
224.	8.0	Mystic River (2003)	128,283
225.	8.0	Barry Lyndon (1975)	42,126
226.	8.0	Festen (1998)	28,283
227.	8.0	Rosemary’s Baby (1968)	54,860
228.	8.0	Kill Bill: Vol. 2 (2004)	195,887
229.	8.0	Patton (1970)	41,615
230.	8.0	Nights of Cabiria (1957)	11,763
231.	8.0	The Truman Show (1998)	170,283
232.	8.0	Roman Holiday (1953)	33,356
233.	8.0	His Girl Friday (1940)	21,815
234.	8.0	Infernal Affairs (2002)	37,924
235.	8.0	Duck Soup (1933)	28,129
236.	8.0	Howl’s Moving Castle (2004)	49,372
237.	8.0	Letters from Iwo Jima (2006)	61,607
238.	8.0	Pirates of the Caribbean: The Curse of the Black Pearl (2003)	249,777
239.	8.0	Sherlock Jr. (1924)	7,685
240.	8.0	Arsenic and Old Lace (1944)	31,469
241.	8.0	In the Mood for Love (2000)	26,876
242.	8.0	The Philadelphia Story (1940)	29,104
243.	8.0	Harvey (1950)	24,647
244.	8.0	Sleuth (1972)	18,685
245.	8.0	Three Colors: Red (1994)	25,561
246.	8.0	The Man Who Shot Liberty Valance (1962)	23,896
247.	8.0	Crash (2004/I)	180,943
248.	8.0	Rope (1948)	33,985
249.	8.0	A Christmas Story (1983)	55,607
250.	8.0	Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind (1984)	22,117

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 weighted rating (WR) = (v ÷ (v+m)) × R + (m ÷ (v+m)) × C

where:

• R = average for the movie (mean) = (Rating)
• v = number of votes for the movie = (votes)
• m = minimum votes required to be listed in the Top 250 (currently 3000)
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Understanding Body Language

well, it’s my first post i hope you like it.

when i was browsing to do my assignment i found some interesting articles about body language.

sources :

• wikipedia
• http://www.buzzle.com/articles/body-language-gestures.html
• http://www.wikihow.com/Read-Body-Language.html

Physical expression

physical expressions like waving, pointing, touching and slouching are all forms of nonverbal communication. The study of body movement and expression is known as kinesics. Humans move their bodies when communicating because, as research has shown, it helps “ease the mental effort when communication is difficult.” Physical expressions reveal many things about the person using them. For example, gestures can emphasize a point or relay a message, posture can reveal boredom or great interest, and touch can convey encouragement or caution.

• One of the most basic and powerful body-language signals is when a person crosses his or her arms across the chest. This can indicate that a person is putting up an unconscious barrier between themselves and others. It can also indicate that the person’s arms are cold, which would be clarified by rubbing the arms or huddling. When the overall situation is amicable, it can mean that a person is thinking deeply about what is being discussed. But in a serious or confrontational situation, it can mean that a person is expressing opposition. This is especially so if the person is leaning away from the speaker. A harsh or blank facial expression often indicates outright hostility.
• Consistent eye contact can indicate that a person is thinking positively of what the speaker is saying. It can also mean that the other person doesn’t trust the speaker enough to “take their eyes off” the speaker. Lack of eye contact can indicate negativity. On the other hand, individuals with anxiety disorders are often unable to make eye contact without discomfort. Eye contact can also be a secondary and misleading gesture because cultural norms about it vary widely. If a person is looking at you, but is making the arms-across-chest signal, the eye contact could be indicative that something is bothering the person, and that he wants to talk about it. Or if while making direct eye contact, a person is fiddling with something, even while directly looking at you, it could indicate the attention is elsewhere. Also, there are three standard areas that a person will look which represent different states of being. If the person looks from one eye to the other then to the forehead, it is a sign that they are taking an authoritative position. If they move from one eye to the other then to the nose, that signals that they are engaging in what they consider to be a “level conversation” with neither party holding superiority. The last case is from one eye to the other and then down to the lips. This is a strong indication of romantic feelings.
• Disbelief is often indicated by averted gaze, or by touching the ear or scratching the chin. When a person is not being convinced by what someone is saying, the attention invariably wanders, and the eyes will stare away for an extended period.
• Boredom is indicated by the head tilting to one side, or by the eyes looking straight at the speaker but becoming slightly unfocused. A head tilt may also indicate a sore neck or Amblyopia, and unfocused eyes may indicate ocular problems in the listener.
• Interest can be indicated through posture or extended eye contact, such as standing and listening properly.
• Deceit or the act of withholding information can sometimes be indicated by touching the face during conversation. Excessive blinking is a well-known indicator of someone who is lying. Recently, evidence has surfaced that the absence of blinking can also represent lying as a more reliable factor than excessive blinking.

Body Language and Gestures

• Brisk and Erect walk This body language means confidence.
• Person standing with hands on hips This body language means readiness and aggression
• Person sitting with legs crossed, foot kicking slightly This body language means boredom.
• Person sitting with legs apart This body language means an open and relaxed person.
• Person tapping or drumming with his fingers This body language means that the person is impatient.
• Patting/fondling hair This body language means lack of self confidence and insecurity.
• Tilting head quickly This body language indicates interest in some person or thing.
• Person walking with hands in pockets, shoulders hunched This body language shows a person in dejection
• Person brings hand to cheek : The person is evaluating and thinking
• Touching, slightly rubbing nose : The person is rejected, in doubt and maybe lying.
• Rubbing the eye : The person is in doubt or disbelief.
• Hands clasped behind back : The person is angry, frustrated and apprehensive.
• Person Stroking chin This indicates that the person is trying to make a decision.
• Person looking down, face turned away Just means disbelief.
• Someone biting nails This is a proof of insecurity and nervousness.
• Pulling or tugging the ear:  The person is indecisive.
• Person with prolonged tilted head Indicates boredom

Some people use and understand body language differently, or not at all. Interpreting their gestures and facial expressions (or lack thereof) in the context of normal body language usually leads to misunderstandings and misinterpretations (especially if body language is given priority over spoken language). It should also be stated that people from different cultures can interpret body language in different ways.

Body language and space

terpersonal space refers to the psychological “bubble” that we can imagine exists when someone is standing too close to us. Research has revealed that there are four different zones of interpersonal space.

• The first zone is called intimate distance and ranges from touching to about eighteen inches (46 cm) apart. Intimate distance is the space around us that we reserve for lovers, children, as well as close family members and friends, and also pet animals.
• The second zone is called personal distance and begins about an arm’s length away; starting around eighteen inches (46 cm) from our person and ending about four feet (122 cm) away. We use personal distance in conversations with friends, to chat with associates, and in group discussions.
• The third zone of interpersonal space is called social distance and is the area that ranges from four to eight feet (1.2 m – 2.4 m) away from you. Social distance is reserved for strangers, newly formed groups, and new acquaintances.
• The fourth identified zone of space is public distance and includes anything more than eight feet (2.4 m) away from you. This zone is used for speeches, lectures, and theater; essentially, public distance is that range reserved for larger audiences.

how to read body language

1. Pay attention to how close someone is to you. The closer they are, the warmer their opinions are of you. The farther away that someone is, the less they actually care of the situation or person. If you move slightly closer to them, do they move slightly further away? That means they don’t want your interaction to be any more personal than it already is. If they don’t move further away, then they are receptive. And if they respond by getting even closer to you, they probably really like you or are very comfortable around/by you.
2. watch their head position

• Overly tilted heads are either a potential sign of sympathy, or if a person smiles while tilting their head, they are being playful and maybe even flirting.
• Lowered heads indicate a reason to hide something. Take note if someone lowers their head. If it is when he is complimented, he may be shy, ashamed, timid, keeping distance from the other person, in disbelief, or thinking to himself or herself. If it is after an explanation, then he may be unsure if what he said was correct.
  • It should be noted that some cultures see this as a sign of respect.
• Cocked heads mean that they are confused or challenging you, depending on eye, eyebrow, and mouth gestures. Think of how a dog slightly cocks its head when you make a funny noise.

3.Look into their eyes

• People who look to the sides a lot are nervous, lying, or distracted. However, if a person looks away from the speaker, it very well could be a comfort display or indicate submissiveness. Looking askance generally means the person is distrustful or unconvinced.
• If someone looks down at the floor a lot, they are probably shy or timid.
• Some cultures believe that looking at someone in the eyes is a sign of disrespect, so this could explain why someone is avoiding eye contact with you.
• Dilated pupils mean that the person is interested. Keep in mind, however, that many drugs cause pupils to dilate, including alcohol, cocaine, amphetamines, MDMA, LSD and others. Don’t mistake having a few drinks for attraction. Also, some people have permanently dilated pupils (a condition known as mydriasis).

4. See if they’re mirroring you. Mirroring is another common gesture. If someone mirrors, or mimics your appearance, this is a very genuine sign that they are interested in you and trying to establish rapport with you. Try changing your body position here and there. If you find that they change theirs similarly, they are mirroring.

5. Check their arms.

• People with crossed arms are closing themselves to social influence. Though some people just cross their arms as a habit, it may indicate that the person is (slightly) reserved, uncomfortable with their appearance, or just trying to hide something on their shirt. If their arms are crossed while their feet are shoulder width or wider apart, this is a position of toughness or authority.
• If someone rests their arms behind their neck or head, they are open to what is being discussed or just laid back in general.
• If their hands are on their hips, they might be waiting or impatient.

6. Be aware of nervous gestures:

• If someone brushes their hair back with their fingers, this may be preening, a common gesture if the person likes you, or their thoughts about something conflict with yours. They might not voice this. If you see raised eyebrows during this time, you can be pretty sure that they disagree with you.
• If the person wears glasses, and is constantly pushing them up onto their nose again, with a slight frown, that may also indicate they disagree with what you are saying. Look to make sure they push up their glasses with an intent, not casually adjusting them. Look for pushing on the rim with two fingers, or an extra motion of wiggling the side of their glasses. The frown or raised eyebrows should tip you off.
• Lowered eyebrows and squinted eyes illustrate an attempt at understanding what is being said or going on. It’s usually skeptical. This is presuming they are not trying to observe something that’s far away.

7. Watch their feet:

• A fast tapping, shifting of weight, laughing, or movement of the foot will most often mean that the person is impatient, excited, nervous, scared, or intimidated.
  • Note though that some people with ADHD will constantly jiggle their legs. It doesn’t mean anything, it’s entirely subconscious and, while eccentric, it can’t be stopped.
• If the person is sitting, feet crossed at the ankles means they’re generally at ease.
• If while standing, a person seems to always keep their feet very close together, it probably means they are trying to be “proper” in some way.
• If they purposely touch their feet to yours, they are flirting!

Tips :

• It’s easy to spot a confident person; they will make prolonged eye contact and have a strong posture. Long eye contact can also be found in lovers’ eyes.
• If a person talks at a fast rate and mumbles or isn’t clear on what they are saying they are lying (trying to stall for time) or not telling the full truth (being vague). (But be aware that some people do actually mumble)
• Don’t isolate yourself by constantly examining body language when interacting with people. Otherwise, there is no reason to gain a social upper hand anyway. This is paralysis by analysis.
• Watch the face, it will usually give off a quick involuntary and sometimes subconscious twitch when something happens that irritates, excites, or amuses them.
• Observing in context is key to understanding body language.
• Keep in mind that each person has their own unique body language called baseline behaviors.
• When observing others, be subtle about it.

Pay special attention to changes in body language rather than the body language itself.

 

so that’s all. hope you like it.